That little pearl of wisdom came from my other half when I couldn’t sleep in the early hours recently. It can be very difficult to get to sleep; a racing mind and an inability to switch off and just relax. We often lie in bed consciously thinking we are relaxed, then we bring our body or face muscles into conscious awareness and we realise we’re holding tension.
Your body never lies.
If we take that further, how much of your day do you spend thinking or telling yourself you’re doing ok, while in reality you’re doubting yourself or suppressing who you really are?
What if your thinking was invigorating and not damaging?
There can be misconception about thinking too much. We tend to see it as corrosive and damaging. It can affect your sleep, mood, and your ability to find perspective. However these things are the effects of your thought process and not the cause. Do we feel like that when we’re really concentrating at a job we love, or preparing our favourite meal?
What if you spent the day focusing on your strengths, and not your fears?
What you fear depends on what you believe about yourself in a given circumstance. Your beliefs then affect your thinking, and your thinking affects how you feel. We manifest scenarios that only exist in our mind, and they can have a positive or negative effect.
A friend of my mine has a very good job, she believes she is very good in her role. When she gets in the car it anchors her subconscious mind into a belief system she has created. She think about her day and she starts to feel feels confident, assured, and backs herself. Her mind is full of thought all day and she is relaxed because she acts according to what she believes. Home is fraught for a number of reasons, she has created a different belief system. She finishes work and gets back in the car, she starts to think about what awaits her and can feel the transition from confident to anxious, assured to restless. She consciously tells herself she is ok, but she gets home and her mind is full of thought again, she isn’t relaxed because she acts according to what she believes.
The same person. Feeling very differently about themselves in the same day. Caused by two different thought patterns, from two separate belief systems. Can she be more calm, measured, and confident in her decisions at home? What would that bring to her growth and development?
Imagine not having to fear the transition, not feeling like a prisoner to a self imposed mindset.
Your thoughts are a resource, they can be used to fill the tank or drain it.
Who do you believe you are?
Now, time to relax.
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