We often see things through the narrow prism of our own experience. Our opinion and view of the world is of course the ‘right’ way to think, and we reinforce this belief by talking to other people with similar views to our own. The difference we see in others can lead us to thinking our view is superior or others are not as enlightened as us. We see this a lot in politics at the moment, where the word democracy means different things to different people, depending on which side of the fence you sit on.
So who is right – you or the other person? Leavers or remainers? Or are we asking the wrong question? It’s very easy in life to frame our thinking and attitude around external things, the paper we read, the news we choose to listen to, the friends we surround ourselves with. How often do you hear people say “I believe in this view because it was how i was brought up”. These are all examples of a way of thinking which takes away all our responsibility for independent thought. Can we not think for ourselves? Sometimes It’s easy and more comforting to blame the other person or the other side rather than looking within. However, we can’t grow and move forward if we don’t have a degree of self awareness and an ability to expand thinking outside of ‘what we know.’ The key here is this – in how many areas of our life do we limit ourselves and our opportunities because we quickly decide ‘they’re not like me’ before even putting ourselves in a position to find out?
The more we listen the more we learn, and maybe if we accept our differences and enhance our similarities our lives would be more fulfilled.
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